So is there any reason you shouldn’t arrange a meeting between your new girlfriend and your children? It’s often very easy for children to become attached, so if you bring someone new into their lives and the relationship fails soon after, your kids are going to start to expect instability.
They’ve already been through enough witnessing their parents split and don’t need any additional disappointment.
“They’re going to automatically assume she broke up the marriage and they’re not going to like her because of that,” said Nancy Fagan, a divorce and relationships expert.
“There’s just a lot of resistance because the children have a strong alliance to their mother.
Dads should always proceed with caution when jumping back into the dating game following a divorce.
While it is certainly possible to successfully make that transition and find a compatible partner, many men make several common mistakes that hinder their divorce recovery and make the healing process even harder for their children.
In fact, a recent survey indicated that many men never fully recover from a breakup.
A common train of thought is that the best way to get over a failed relationship is to immediately hop back on the saddle.
“Don’t’ get me wrong, (a rebound) can be a really fun distraction.
But, when it’s over, you’re left thinking about the girl you really like, the one that broke your heart.” Even if you don’t fully realize the extent of it, your divorce likely took an emotional toll on you.
Remember, your kids have a relationship with both you and their mom.
They’re likely to view this new person as a threat and possibly even a source of blame for why their parents couldn’t make it work.
If you are considering dating again, here are some important things to keep in mind.